Learn to say no and put yourself first.学会拒绝，把自己放在第一位。
Because right now we need to be focused.因为现在我们需要集中注意力。
We are on the path to embodying our full potential in my embodying spirit.我们正走在实现全部潜能的道路上，以我体现的精神。
And in order to get there we must be mentally sharp and calculated.为了达到那个目标，我们必须思维敏锐且行事周密。
We need to play this smart because there's not a lot of margin for error my friend.我们需要明智地行事，因为我的朋友，容错空间不多了。
And so when your friends actually go out and party and drink, say no.所以当你的朋友真的出去聚会喝酒时，要说“不”。
When your boss or work asks for an extra favor, say no.当你的老板或工作请求额外帮忙时，要说“不”。
When it allows the opportunity follows in your lap and当机会自动送上门来，而
it doesn't really align with what you need to be doing,它并不真正符合你需要做的事情。
Learn to say no and do not feel bad because saying no is prioritizing you.学会说“不”，不要感到内疚，因为说“不”是在优先考虑你自己。
And that is what we need right now.而这正是我们现在所需要的。
We need to be prioritizing us.我们需要优先考虑我们自己。
So here's your reminder.所以，这是给你的提醒。
I recorded that yesterday and I wanted to expand我昨天录了那个，我想进一步展开。
on this topic because the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this关于这个话题，因为我越想它，就越意识到这
was a very transformational thing是一件非常有变革性的事情
in my own personal journey.在我自己的个人旅程中。
A lot of the things that I talk about in my videos我在视频中谈论的很多事情
are based on personal experience.都是基于个人经验。
I ask myself, What would be at the lowest point of my life need to hear我问自己，在我人生的最低谷，我需要听到什么
in order to like, you know, sometimes we need that thing.为了，就像，你知道的，有时候我们需要那个东西。
There's just like this epiphany moment we have, and it sets us on a new path, a better path.就像我们有一个顿悟的时刻，它让我们走上一条新的道路，一条更好的道路。
So when I make these videos,所以当我制作这些视频时。
I think what would I need to hear in that moment for that to happen?我会想，在那一刻我需要听到什么才能让那发生？
Learning to say no, understanding the importance of being able to say no.学会说“不”，理解能够说“不”的重要性。
to other people to things that were not in alignment对那些与……不一致的人和事
with my path of personal development与我个人发展的道路
my full capability in mind, body and spirit.我在思想、身体和精神上的全部能力。
Learning to say no to that stuff and学会对那类事情说不。
say yes to my priorities,对我的优先事项说可以。
daily activities, the things that I was doing on a day to day basis,日常活动，我每天都在做的事情。
like going to the gym,比如去健身房。
time to my craft.时间给我的技艺。
like reading, like meditating, like praying, very foundational things that help us become better people.比如阅读、冥想、祈祷，这些非常基础的事情帮助我们成为更好的人。
Saying yes to those things, that was对这些事情说“是”，那是
arguably one of one of the most transformational changes that I made可以说，这是我做出的最具变革性的改变之一。
So I want to take a little bit of time to flesh out the importance of this.所以我想花一点时间来详细阐述这一点的重要性。
Every time that you say yes to things that are out of alignment每次你对那些与你个人发展不一致的事情说“是”时，
with your personal development of this path that you have chosen,与你选择的这条道路的个人发展相悖时。
you're sacrificing time away你正在牺牲时间
at the end of the day.最终。
And really, if our purpose in life is to pursue our full capability in mind, body and spirit,实际上，如果我们人生的目的是追求心智、身体和精神上的全部潜能。
version of ourselves, that我们自己的版本，那个
fullest capability, the full embodiment of those things of our greatest version最充分的能力，那些我们最伟大版本的事物的完整体现
of ourselves, that person is not this foreign thing.我们自己，那个人并不是这个陌生的东西。
It's not something that we're chasing outside of us, but it is rather a它不是我们在外面追逐的东西，而是一个
more clear reflection of更清晰的反映
the energy, the identity that we already possess within us.我们已经内在拥有的能量和身份。
So really our purpose in life is to get to know who we are as people,所以实际上，我们人生的目的是去了解作为人的自己是谁。
understand what we are, so that we can do things that理解我们是什么，这样我们才能做那些
align with us, truly align with us,与我们一致，真正与我们一致。
be it activities, habits, passions, people,无论是活动、习惯、热情还是人。
many things that come into our life.许多进入我们生活的事物。
It's important that we're able to discern what is for us and what is not for us.重要的是我们能够辨别什么对我们有益，什么对我们无益。
Every time you say yes to things that are distractions that are noise that is每次你对那些是干扰、是噪音的事物说“是”时，
things that are pulling you away, pulling you out there,那些把你拉走、把你拉到外面去的事物。
you are sacrificing time that you could be spending doing that,你正在牺牲本可以用来做那件事的时间。
getting to know yourself.了解你自己。
You are sacrificing time that you could be spending你正在牺牲本可以用来做其他事情的时间。
developing your skills, improving your weaknesses.发展你的技能，改进你的弱点。
If you are someone who lacks in communication,如果你是一个在沟通方面有所欠缺的人。
I get a lot of people that message me about how to improve我收到很多人给我发消息询问如何提高。
in their vocabulary.在他们的词汇中。
what to do to become smarter, more knowledgeable, what to do to become more outgoing, more charismatic.做什么才能变得更聪明、更有知识，做什么才能变得更外向、更有魅力。
These are things that we need to be working on now.这些是我们现在需要努力的事情。
My friend, this is a growth stage in your life.我的朋友，这是你生命中的一个成长阶段。
And this is a crucial point, because this is the turning point, really.这是一个关键点，因为这真的是转折点。
I mean, this is the fork in the road.我的意思是，这就是人生的岔路口。
Now, sometimes it's not just as easy as saying, no.有时候，事情并不像说一句“不”那么简单。
Sometimes there is a weight that we carry with us.有时候，我们背负着一种重担。
That makes it hard to make that decision.这使得做出那个决定变得困难。
When our emotions or we let the way we feel dictate当我们的情绪或我们让感觉支配
our decisions, yeah, it can be pretty difficult to say我们的决定，是的，可能很难说
But a lot of the time,但很多时候。
when our reason for saying yes to things that we know we shouldn't当我们对明知不该答应的事情说好的理由
be doing, It's in an effort to please the other person or save the other person or这样做是为了取悦对方或拯救对方，或者
From feeling bad, we don't want them to feel unwanted or not valued.因为感到难过，我们不想让他们觉得自己不被需要或不被重视。
And look, that's a human thing.你看，这是人之常情。
As people, most people, if you're not psychotic, your natural instinct is to make other people feel good.作为人，大多数人，如果你不是精神病患者，你的本能就是让别人感觉良好。
you want other people to feel cared for, to feel valued.你希望别人感到被关心、被重视。
what is happening here is这里正在发生的是
we're allowing our emotions, our feelings to我们正在让我们的情绪、我们的感受去
dictate our life.支配我们的生活。
We're letting them take the lead我们让他们带头。
and most of the time that it's not a good idea.而且大多数时候这不是个好主意。
Now, I'm not saying to become numb, you know, like emotions are good.现在，我不是说要变得麻木，你知道，情绪是好的。
I'm not one to be like, be cold. No.我不是那种会变得冷漠的人。不。
Emotions are very important.情绪非常重要。
And in fact, they're a vital tool when it comes to being able to make even harder decisions.事实上，当需要做出更艰难的决定时，它们是一个至关重要的工具。
They are our compass.它们就是我们的指南针。
And a lot of times they can tell us things that we don't consciously understand.很多时候，它们能告诉我们一些我们并未有意识理解的事情。
But in this case, in this stage of our lives, we need to be thinking primarily with logic.但在这种情况下，在我们人生的这个阶段，我们需要主要用逻辑来思考。
We need to be going throughout our days我们需要度过我们的每一天
in a sort of pragmatic manner.以一种务实的方式。
Because right now, our path looks like just one foot in front of the other.因为现在，我们的道路看起来只是一步接着一步。
We're not worried about this over here.我们不担心这边的这个。
We're not worried about that over there.我们不担心那边的那个。
We're not worried about what's going to come我们不担心即将到来的事情。
in our near or distant future.在我们不久的或遥远的未来。
We're focused on our daily habits.我们专注于我们的日常习惯。
We're focused on improving 1% every single day.我们专注于每天进步1%。
One step in front of the other.一步接着一步。
And yeah, it's not exactly the most enthralling experience all the time.而且，是的，这并不总是最令人着迷的经历。
But it's what we need to do.但这是我们需要做的。
There's not a lot of room for error in this stage.在这个阶段没有太多容错空间。
We need to be somewhat tunnel vision.我们需要有点目光狭隘。
Of course, it's not good to be too tunnel vision, but we need to be当然，过于目光狭隘并不好，但我们需要
mentally sharp and just dialed in on us on our daily improvements.思维敏锐，并且全神贯注于我们每天的进步。
It's also extremely important to create boundaries.设定界限也非常重要。
Boundaries will help you界限会帮助你
Mentally or like visually, draw a line.在心理上或像视觉上一样，画一条线。
And when something crosses that line, it doesn't matter how we feel about it.当某件事越过了那条线，我们怎么想就不重要了。
And honestly, when something crosses that boundary, you should be confident in your decision.老实说，当某件事越过了那条界限时，你应该对自己的决定充满信心。